How to raise a child
Dr Gowher Yusuf
Hal 3rd stage, Bengaluru Feb 13, 2017
"Positive parenting tips for a happy, successful and cooperative child".
Giving your kids happy, healthy childhoods could set them up for success in life. But many parents wonder, how exactly do you raise happy kids in today’s world? Turns out the best way to raise good kids doesn't involve expensive private tutors or fancy summer camps. Instead, it all comes down to making them care. No one would argue that raising children of character demands time and big effort. While having children may be doing what comes naturally, being a good parent is much more complicated. Many parents focus attention on their children’s grades and extracurricular activities, such as by making sure kids study, do their homework, and get to soccer practice or dance lessons prepared and on time. But all too often, we forget to put time and effort into nurturing another component of child success and development—one that is just as important, and perhaps even more essential, than good grades, awards, and trophies—being a good person.
Here are some of the parenting tips or some parenting skills that you can develop for the art of parenting and avoid bad parenting-
Nurture Empathy in Your Child- Emotional intelligence and empathy, or the ability to put oneself in someone else’s shoes and consider their feelings and thoughts, is one of the most fundamental traits in good people.
Encourage Them to Lift Up Others- As you encourage positive behaviors such as doing something to make someone’s day better (even something as small as patting a friend on the shoulder when they're sad), be sure to talk about what negative effects behaviors like gossiping or bullying have on both sides (both those who are bullied and those who do the bullying), and why and how it hurts people.
Teach Them Good Manners- Does your child routinely practice the fundamentals of good manners such as saying “Thank you” and “Please”? Does she speak politely to people and address elders as “Mr.” and Ms.”? Does she know how to greet people properly, and is she familiar with the basics of good table manners?
Treat Them With Kindness and Respect- The most effective way to get kids to speak to you and others respectfully and to interact with others graciously is by doing exactly that yourself when you interact with your child. Think about how you speak to your child.
Give Them Responsibilities Around the House- When children have an expected list of age-appropriate chores to do at home, such as helping set the table or sweeping the floor, they gain a sense of responsibility and accomplishment. Good parenting styles-
Start when they stump you- There’s a hidden message in your child's behavior
Identify your true child's nature- There are 4 types of parenting to identify your child's future.
The Fun-loving Child- The primary connection to the world is Social. They are generally described as friendly, bright, and light-hearted. Most often they are judged by flighty, hyperactive and unreliable.
The Sensitive Child- The primary connection to the world is Emotional. They are generally described as gentle, tender, mindful. Most often they are judged by Shy, wimpy, and hypersensitive.
The Determined Child- The primary connection to the world is physical. They are generally described as busy persistent and energetic. Most often they are judged by pushy, demanding, and loud.
The more serious Child- The primary connection to the world is intellectual. They are generally described as efficient, analytical and thorough. Most often they are judged by critical and know-it-all.
Interpret the tantrum- Your child is telling you something, even if they don't know how to say it. Ask yourself does my child feel overly controlled, Have my child’s plan been ignored, Is something in my child's life too stifling, and does my child need to feel more respected if the answer to all these questions is yes then time to make some changes.
Be intuitive, not reactive- Some ways are to surprise your child, facilitate friendship, have fun with them, connect with them, allow adventure, focus when listening, support structure and encourage your child, etc.
Best parenting books-
16 Keys to Motivating Your Teenager- This e-book has already been downloaded by more than 18,000 happy parents. Judy Arnall’s latest book Parenting With Patience: Turn Frustration Into Connection With 3 Easy Steps.
Here are some good parenting quotes that can help you to boost prevent bad preventing from your life-
“Be the parent today that you want your kids to remember tomorrow.”
“They may forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel”
“Patience is the art of concealing your impatience.”
“Good character is not formed in a week or a month. It is created little by little, day by day. Protracted and patient effort is needed…”
“Patience, persistence and perspiration make an unbeatable combination for success.”
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