Teens: How do you learn to control your anger? Activity 16 & 17
Dr Gowher Yusuf
Hal 3rd stage, Bengaluru Feb 13, 2017
Source: The Anger workbook for Teens by (Raychelle Cassada Lohmann, MS)
When something goes wrong, it is much easier to blame others than to admit that we played a role in causing the problem. But blaming others does not resolve conflict; it just makes it worse. Before laying the blame on others, ask yourself “what role do I have in this?” Once you learn to take responsibility for your own actions, you will be less likely to push your anger onto someone else.
Briefly describe a time when you blamed another person for something you did.
Have you ever been accused of something that you didn’t do? What happened?
What do you think it’s easier to blame others for your problems than to accept responsibility?
The next time you find yourself either blaming or being blamed, what can you do to keep from getting angry?
We all overreact to situations at times, but when it happens frequently it can lead to big problems. Keeping perspective means recognizing when you are blowing things out of proportion. You can then change your response so that the situation does not get out of control.
Briefly describe a time when you blew a situation out of proportion.
What were you thinking?
What was the outcome of the situation?
What could you do differently the next time you are faced with a similar situation?
How can being aware of your thoughts and feelings keeping you from over reacting?
If you repeatedly overreact to situations, how do you think it will affect your relationship with others?
What are some consequences you have faced because of overreacting? (For example, have you lost friends or been suspended from school?)