Teens: How do you learn to cope up your anxiety? Activity 7 & 8
Dr Gowher Yusuf
Hal 3rd stage, Bengaluru Feb 9, 2017
Source: The Anxiety Workbook for Teens by Lisa M, SCHAB, LCSW
Do you think? If the answer to that question is yes, then you already know how to use an awesome anxiety-management tool. Your thoughts create your experience of life. Your attitude, or the way you think about things, is one of the most powerful tools you have to help you and prevent manage feelings of anxiety. And since you are the only one who controls your thoughts, at every moment you have the ability to create a peaceful experience or an anxious experience for yourself.
1.Describe a recent situation in which you experienced anxiety.
2.Tell what you were thinking that cause this anxiety.
3.What could you have thought to make the experience a peaceful on instead?
4.Describe a recent situation in which you felt peaceful.
5.Tell what you were thinking that caused you to feel peaceful.
6.What could you have thought that would have made the experience an anxious one instead?
It is common for people to worry about things that they feel anxious about. However, all the time and energy that is spent in worry is actually wasted. When you try to alleviate anxiety by worrying, all you do is make the anxiety grow stronger.
Most people don’t realize why they worry. They think worrying is something that just happens. Or they say they “have to” worry about something. That is not true, of course. Usually we begin to worry because we feel anxious about a situation and we want to do something to try to prevent a negative outcome. If it is a situation that we have little or no control over, there is not much we can do. Not being able to do anything brings up feelings of helplessness, which trigger worry. Worrying is something we can do. When we worry, we may feel we are doing something to try to control the situation.
People have worried about things for centuries, but it has never once had a positive effect on the outcome of a situation. If there were any possible way that worrying would help you to relieve anxiety, there would be an exercise in this book teaching you how to worry and suggesting that you practice it diligently as both prevention and intervention.
What worrying does do is to drain you, both emotionally and physically. That makes your situation worse because you have less energy to handle whatever it is that is going on. Then your anxiety level goes up again because you feel even more helpless.
1.What was it like to spend five minutes purposely worrying hard about something?
2.How did this purposeful worrying affect your anxiety level?
3.What happens to your body and your mind when you worry so hard?
4.Describe any way that the worrying just did will have a positive effect on the outcome of the situation.
5.Describe something you could do instead of worrying that would be more productive or would help you feel better.